By: Dave Monter, RFP – Wealth Coach
The middle class are just comfortable of where they are right now in terms of their finances.
Yes, I did just say that. I hate to break it to you but if you want to be rich, you just don’t settle for what’s comfortable. You go higher than that, you go for extremely comfortable. I get the feeling that some, if not most of you, will have a negative or uncomfortable feeling towards what I’m writing right now. You might say, “Shouldn’t I be contented with what I have?” No, you shouldn’t be contented – you should be grateful for what you have and then strive to have more so that you can be extremely comfortable and be able to help more people along the way. The difference, ladies and gentleman, lies on the purpose of why you want to be rich. The rich think bigger than themselves or their family. They want to leave a legacy.
Reflect on that uncomfortable feeling you just had when you read the things that I just said, such feeling may just be the very reason why you can’t or won’t become rich.
Upon reflecting on the differences between the rich, middle class and poor, I have realized that being in the middle class is a mix of both rich and poor mindsets but that for me is such a dangerous place to be. Why? Because being a middle class, they already have the tendency to be rich but doesn’t want to take that risk or that jump to their next level. At the same time, the middle class have the tendency to be poor, should they sulk longer in what they call, “victim mode”.
You would know if a person is in a victim mode if they do the following (especially with regards to his or her finances):
- Blaming – They are very good at the “blame game”. They blame their parents, the government, the weather, the economy, their neighbor, even their pets (just kidding!) for their misfortunes with regards to their finances. My dear friend (I wish), Bill Gates, said it perfectly, “If you are born poor, it is not your fault. If you die poor, it is your fault.” So quit all the blabbering about all the BIR stuff and start taking charge of your finances.
- Justifying – They are also good at justifying why they aren’t rich. The most common justification that they use is that “Money isn’t important”. If you’ve heard of this line from someone, most likely that person is broke or just getting by. Money is important. Try paying bills and food with love, honesty and trust. Let’s see where it will take you. If you have negative image of money, it’s highly unlikely you’ll ever be rich. Time and time again it has been said, money is not the root cause of evil. It is the love of money that is the root cause of all evil (1 Timothy 6:10).
- Complaining – What you focus on expands. If you focus on the negative things about your finances such as your debt, you will attract more debt. If you focus on the what’s wrong, all of your energy will attract more of it. However, if you focus on, let’s say, earning more through an additional source of income, all of your energy will focus there. Thus, this gives you more opportunity to earn and eventually pay off your debt.
Letting go of being in the “victim mode” will help you focus on what’s more important – taking charge of your finances. It will not be easy, I tell you. There will be times that you will be shifting back to your default mode. That’s why discipline is needed to hack your brain to focus more on going full out on your financial life. Going back to your default mode is normal, but how long you would be staying there will define whether or not you are on your way to becoming rich. Pass by such feeling, just don’t hang out in that place for too long.
To start rewiring your mindset from that of a middle class to that of the rich, I would recommend that you do the following:
- Wake up early – You will be finishing a lot of activities within the day if you do so.
- Exercise – Everything around us is energy. If you exercise, not only you will be healthy but you will have lots of energy. Money is energy that is why it is called currency.
- Audiobooks – Devour yourself with audiobooks while stuck in traffic instead of complaining how traffic is.
- Self-development seminars – Attend and invest on yourself by attending self-development seminars. You can reach out to I Am Plus Limitless Coaches (email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org) for schedules of these seminars.
- Theory of Space – Surround yourself with people who have reached the level where you want to be, who are better than you and who are richer than you. Spend most of your time with them. Pick their brains. Remember what my good pal (kidding) Jim Rohn said, “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” You want to become a millionaire? Start hanging out with them. Do whatever it takes. Join groups, clubs, etc. You’ll be surprised of the results.
Dave Monter is a Registered Financial Planner, has a Diploma in Financial Planning in Australia, and a Life and Wealth Coach.
He used to be your average employee, living paycheck to paycheck until he decided to venture into entrepreneurship. He is now an advocate of helping people change their mindset towards life and wealth, in the form of coaching, as he sees the two areas related to one another.